Sunday, April 28, 2013
Saturday, April 20, 2013
19-04-2013
Finally we had a short meetup session with the ITE kakis. Having a dinner together and a short drinking session.
Its been more den a month since we have meetup as the last meetup is during one of our fren's wedding dinner.
A meetup session between friends os always nice as we tend to update each other on what have happened during the period that we did not meet up.
For me, I told my frenz about my South Korea trip, one of them talked about his plan for a special occasion, one of them talked about work and one of them tslked about his girlfriend.
And here the conversation officially started.
As all of us only either saw his girlfriend once or didn't even see her before. So we're very concerned about their progress.
Having being together for a few months already, everything seems to be going smoothly for them. Having meals together frequently, working at the same place and going overseas together for a few times.
But all these is what we've been thinking as our friend will normally ignore us when he's in a relationship, so actuallynwe're quite used to it already.
But after having the Q&A session with him. We found out that actually he is having quite alot of pressure from this relationship. Physically, mentally and financially.
Having an age gap of 6 or 7 years old between them, both of them tend to have different thinking and different opinions in things they see and they do. And when the girl's position at work is higher den my friend, which doesn't improve to the situation.
My friend told us that his girlfriend hope that he can continue his part-time degree so that it will help towarda hom climbing to a higher position at his workplace.
Of course its good if my fren gets his degree. It will improve his payslip and the stability of his job. But all these requires time and money.
Studying part time in Singapore is definitely not something cheap and it'll easily require 3 to 5 years to complete it if everything goes smooth. If it takes 3 years, my fren will be 33 and if it takes 5 yrs, my fren will be 35. What if my fren cannot make it, the time and money poured in will be down the drain.
My friend owns a car and so naturally he'll send his girlfriend back home and den go home. This may sound normal but actually its not on the way for my friend. Their workplace is at Queenstown. My friend stays Clementi and his girlfroend stays near the Geylang area.
Its actually like travelling double for my fren. The extra petrol required and the ERP needed to pay daily accumulates up to quite an amount.
And most of the time when they go for meals, my friend is the one paying. This is something common as most of the time the guy will pay for the meal.
But as a girlfriend, do also try to help and understand mah. My friend position at the workplace is lower den u so obviously his salary is definitely lesser den u.
If before you guys got together you can travel by public transport, I dun see why u can't do it now. You may say that my friend insist in sending you home but YOU also can insist in rejecting his insist mah.
If you guys want to be together, there muz be mutual understanding between both of you. My fren can save up the money for the future of the both of you.
And since you know he's earning less den you so what you can do is contribute sometimes for meals together or something. Being the boyfriend doesn't mean he has to pay for everything.
Don't give the excuse of he insisted or guys should pay for it. So when happy both happy but when suffer only one suffer ?
Be understanding abit. This world is everything for themself. You may be young, you still have alot of chances in everything but my friend is already hitting 30 years old. If you're serious about this relationship, please understand and di not place your eyes so high and have expectations as high as where the skies are.
Nothing much for me to say and do also. The decision lies in the both of them. At the end of the day I'm juz a person that happened to walk into the path of their lives which can be erased easily from the memories of everyone.
Its been more den a month since we have meetup as the last meetup is during one of our fren's wedding dinner.
A meetup session between friends os always nice as we tend to update each other on what have happened during the period that we did not meet up.
For me, I told my frenz about my South Korea trip, one of them talked about his plan for a special occasion, one of them talked about work and one of them tslked about his girlfriend.
And here the conversation officially started.
As all of us only either saw his girlfriend once or didn't even see her before. So we're very concerned about their progress.
Having being together for a few months already, everything seems to be going smoothly for them. Having meals together frequently, working at the same place and going overseas together for a few times.
But all these is what we've been thinking as our friend will normally ignore us when he's in a relationship, so actuallynwe're quite used to it already.
But after having the Q&A session with him. We found out that actually he is having quite alot of pressure from this relationship. Physically, mentally and financially.
Having an age gap of 6 or 7 years old between them, both of them tend to have different thinking and different opinions in things they see and they do. And when the girl's position at work is higher den my friend, which doesn't improve to the situation.
My friend told us that his girlfriend hope that he can continue his part-time degree so that it will help towarda hom climbing to a higher position at his workplace.
Of course its good if my fren gets his degree. It will improve his payslip and the stability of his job. But all these requires time and money.
Studying part time in Singapore is definitely not something cheap and it'll easily require 3 to 5 years to complete it if everything goes smooth. If it takes 3 years, my fren will be 33 and if it takes 5 yrs, my fren will be 35. What if my fren cannot make it, the time and money poured in will be down the drain.
My friend owns a car and so naturally he'll send his girlfriend back home and den go home. This may sound normal but actually its not on the way for my friend. Their workplace is at Queenstown. My friend stays Clementi and his girlfroend stays near the Geylang area.
Its actually like travelling double for my fren. The extra petrol required and the ERP needed to pay daily accumulates up to quite an amount.
And most of the time when they go for meals, my friend is the one paying. This is something common as most of the time the guy will pay for the meal.
But as a girlfriend, do also try to help and understand mah. My friend position at the workplace is lower den u so obviously his salary is definitely lesser den u.
If before you guys got together you can travel by public transport, I dun see why u can't do it now. You may say that my friend insist in sending you home but YOU also can insist in rejecting his insist mah.
If you guys want to be together, there muz be mutual understanding between both of you. My fren can save up the money for the future of the both of you.
And since you know he's earning less den you so what you can do is contribute sometimes for meals together or something. Being the boyfriend doesn't mean he has to pay for everything.
Don't give the excuse of he insisted or guys should pay for it. So when happy both happy but when suffer only one suffer ?
Be understanding abit. This world is everything for themself. You may be young, you still have alot of chances in everything but my friend is already hitting 30 years old. If you're serious about this relationship, please understand and di not place your eyes so high and have expectations as high as where the skies are.
Nothing much for me to say and do also. The decision lies in the both of them. At the end of the day I'm juz a person that happened to walk into the path of their lives which can be erased easily from the memories of everyone.
Monday, April 15, 2013
15-04-2013
Here I am writing a blogpost again. Nowadays I'll use my mobile to write my blog coz its so easy now as any mobile device can access to the net.
Something depressing have happened lately.
One of my fren his son is having the full month celebration. A pity I have to woek so I did not attend the celebration
According to my frenz that attended, my fren is full of smile and happiness during the party. Everybody was congratulating him and he replied thanks.
But the happiness shown on the face may not be genuine. You'll never know deep down what is he thinking.
After the celebration and everything, my fren went to work. As he works for a catering company, his working hours us quite irregular as food catering business does not have regular timing.
Monday arrives and he's not back home. Very common, happened alot of times. He felt tired after collecting all the catering stuff and he'll juz sleep in the car.
During night time, we sensed something strange, he hasn't call back home and inform anything. The wife, which is also our fren, is worried. She ask us to keep a lookout for him.
None of us is able to find or contact him. All started to get worried whether did anything hapen to him. Uncontactable in anyway. One of us went to his workplace and found out that he did not went to work.
We suggest they make a police report as we duno what have happened. Everyone is worried like hell, trying to find his whereabouts.
But to say the truth, there's nothing we can do except for waiting for news. We do not have the resources and time as all of us are working adults. So we should juz trust the police and let them do the job.
Comes wednesday morning. Yes, its wednesday already. The wife told us he's back home. All of us felt relieved but the next thing is a shocker. He wants to leave the wife.
What The Fuck !
Their son juz celebrated full month and their house is soon to be ready to move in. And now my fren suddenly says he wants to leave the family.
I duno whether izzit he wants a divorce or something but from what we know, he isn't the kind of person that would have an affair outside.
We are all puzzled by his actions. But at this moment, anything that we say will not make a difference in his actions. If the son and the flat is not able to make him change his decision, we do not know what can make him change his decision.
Life, marriage, family. All seems so strong but just a small thing will break it.
Something depressing have happened lately.
One of my fren his son is having the full month celebration. A pity I have to woek so I did not attend the celebration
According to my frenz that attended, my fren is full of smile and happiness during the party. Everybody was congratulating him and he replied thanks.
But the happiness shown on the face may not be genuine. You'll never know deep down what is he thinking.
After the celebration and everything, my fren went to work. As he works for a catering company, his working hours us quite irregular as food catering business does not have regular timing.
Monday arrives and he's not back home. Very common, happened alot of times. He felt tired after collecting all the catering stuff and he'll juz sleep in the car.
During night time, we sensed something strange, he hasn't call back home and inform anything. The wife, which is also our fren, is worried. She ask us to keep a lookout for him.
None of us is able to find or contact him. All started to get worried whether did anything hapen to him. Uncontactable in anyway. One of us went to his workplace and found out that he did not went to work.
We suggest they make a police report as we duno what have happened. Everyone is worried like hell, trying to find his whereabouts.
But to say the truth, there's nothing we can do except for waiting for news. We do not have the resources and time as all of us are working adults. So we should juz trust the police and let them do the job.
Comes wednesday morning. Yes, its wednesday already. The wife told us he's back home. All of us felt relieved but the next thing is a shocker. He wants to leave the wife.
What The Fuck !
Their son juz celebrated full month and their house is soon to be ready to move in. And now my fren suddenly says he wants to leave the family.
I duno whether izzit he wants a divorce or something but from what we know, he isn't the kind of person that would have an affair outside.
We are all puzzled by his actions. But at this moment, anything that we say will not make a difference in his actions. If the son and the flat is not able to make him change his decision, we do not know what can make him change his decision.
Life, marriage, family. All seems so strong but just a small thing will break it.
Monday, April 08, 2013
Saturday, April 06, 2013
06/04/2013
Its been a few weeks since I've updated. Kinda busy nowadays.
Well, I'm back safe and sound from South Korea !
Finally I've been to South Korea, the land of Girls Generation, T-ara, Apink and BoA !
Its the first time I've gone overseas with frenz and not with my bosses and colleagues as the previous trips are all with them.
South Korea is actually the last country in my wanna visit list as I've been to Hongkong, Taipei and Japan.
All these while to me, travelling seems like something which is near impossible for me to do due to my illness which I have to bring more things with me den a normal healthy person.
Because of these reasons, I find travelling a very turn off thing coz it will cause inconvinence to the people whom I'm travelling with.
But I'm very glad that all the people I've travelled with are very nice and understanding, always asking me is everything ok during the trip.
When I was young, I only get to know about other countries through watching variety shows, watching dramas and of course through the internet.
I never have the thought of travelling overseas when young due to all the travelling expenses like Airfare, Lodging and of course spending at that country. All these can easily add up to $2000 or more depends on the country.
$2000 may not seem to be a big amount to alot of people but $2000 may also seem to be a big amount to people also.
Like for myself, I do not really spend alot daily on things like gadgets or toys but I do spend quite alot on my meals which can easily hit $20 a day.
One thing that turns me off about travelling is that in my case, I have a savings account that I'll save $300 every month so that I could have some cash when I really do need it urgently.
Like for example, this trip to South Korea. The airfare is $850 and lodging adds up to around $350 which in total is $1200, and this doesn't include the money that I've spend there.
All these will add up to near $2000 like what I've said earlier. I will need like 7 months to be able to save up to this amount. And for a 5 day holiday, this amount of money in my bank is gone.
For me it requires 7 months to save up this amount, but to some other people who are earning lesser den me, they will need an even longer period to save up.
But I firmly believe that everyone should have their chance to travel to a country that they really wanted.
When I was small, I always wanted to go Japan as I'm attracted to the games, animes and mangas produced from the country.
When I hit my teens, I wanted to visit Hongkong due to the idolising of Andy Lau and Aaron Kwok.
When I grew even older, Taipei became the country I wanted to go due to all the Taiwan variety shows and dramas ehich always showed good food of Taiwan.
It may sound like a luxury that not everybody can afford to have, but travelling and looking at the real thing us definitely better den only looking at them through the tv and magazines.
The next post I'll be back with my experience on South Korea !
Well, I'm back safe and sound from South Korea !
Finally I've been to South Korea, the land of Girls Generation, T-ara, Apink and BoA !
Its the first time I've gone overseas with frenz and not with my bosses and colleagues as the previous trips are all with them.
South Korea is actually the last country in my wanna visit list as I've been to Hongkong, Taipei and Japan.
All these while to me, travelling seems like something which is near impossible for me to do due to my illness which I have to bring more things with me den a normal healthy person.
Because of these reasons, I find travelling a very turn off thing coz it will cause inconvinence to the people whom I'm travelling with.
But I'm very glad that all the people I've travelled with are very nice and understanding, always asking me is everything ok during the trip.
When I was young, I only get to know about other countries through watching variety shows, watching dramas and of course through the internet.
I never have the thought of travelling overseas when young due to all the travelling expenses like Airfare, Lodging and of course spending at that country. All these can easily add up to $2000 or more depends on the country.
$2000 may not seem to be a big amount to alot of people but $2000 may also seem to be a big amount to people also.
Like for myself, I do not really spend alot daily on things like gadgets or toys but I do spend quite alot on my meals which can easily hit $20 a day.
One thing that turns me off about travelling is that in my case, I have a savings account that I'll save $300 every month so that I could have some cash when I really do need it urgently.
Like for example, this trip to South Korea. The airfare is $850 and lodging adds up to around $350 which in total is $1200, and this doesn't include the money that I've spend there.
All these will add up to near $2000 like what I've said earlier. I will need like 7 months to be able to save up to this amount. And for a 5 day holiday, this amount of money in my bank is gone.
For me it requires 7 months to save up this amount, but to some other people who are earning lesser den me, they will need an even longer period to save up.
But I firmly believe that everyone should have their chance to travel to a country that they really wanted.
When I was small, I always wanted to go Japan as I'm attracted to the games, animes and mangas produced from the country.
When I hit my teens, I wanted to visit Hongkong due to the idolising of Andy Lau and Aaron Kwok.
When I grew even older, Taipei became the country I wanted to go due to all the Taiwan variety shows and dramas ehich always showed good food of Taiwan.
It may sound like a luxury that not everybody can afford to have, but travelling and looking at the real thing us definitely better den only looking at them through the tv and magazines.
The next post I'll be back with my experience on South Korea !
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